What is a (birth) debrief?
At its most simple, it is an opportunity for you to turn up and be heard, to nurture your mind-body connection, and to explore experiences, relationships and stories from your past that are occupying space in your mind and body in the present.
It might be about birth, or not.
It might be a previous health or pregnancy experience, including loss or fertility challenges, or something that seems somewhat un-related.
It might be about understanding the why behind an experience on an intellectual level, or exploring how your body might still be stuck in a previous story.
It might be about something that happened last week, last year, or last decade.
There are no rules, is no right or wrong way to turn up and nothing in particular that we need to cover - often the most important thing to work through turns up of it’s own accord.
It is a slow and gentle exploration of something that is big for you now, no matter how much work you’ve done, how much time has passed, or how you think you should/could be feeling about it.
Okay, but do I really need one?
Ever feel like you’re doing everything you can and it’s just not enough? (Eugh, I see you)
Like emotion just bubbles up and out of you at the smallest trigger? (Hi, yes I’ve been there)
Like you want to trust in your body’s ability to heal, but feel like it has let you down time and time again? (Whyyyy must it take so long)
Or like you’re battling against the will off the universe to achieve your health goals and cannot, for the life of you, figure out what the block is?
Is there a part of your story that keeps coming up? A moment you keep re-living? A flippant comment from a well-meaning (or not) care provider/family member/friend/colleague/sister’s boyfriend’s auntie’s next door neighbour that lives rent-free in your head and pops up at the most inopportune times?
Or, do you just* want an opportunity to be heard, to tell your story (whatever that story is), to feel validated in your struggles and celebrated in your wins?
You are so welcome here.
*Just! Just! As if that isn’t one of the most important parts of being human - feeling heard and seen and connected to other humans.
What to expect in your debrief
The process begins from the moment you book in and commit to doing the deeper work. Often our minds have an agenda for healing and a priority list of things to work on, but our body has other plans (and that’s totally okay).
You’re welcome to fill me in on anything that feels relevant before your booked appointment via the intake form (include as much or as little as you’d like). Equally, you may like to turn up and see what feels important on the day.
This time is for you and your body. We go where we need to, and pause when your body is telling you that it needs some more time.
We may do some somatic exploration - where you drop into your body and focus on an area that feels charged (like a tight chest accompanying anxious feelings, or pelvic pain during exercise).
We may do some inner parts work - where we revisit a previous experience and how that felt for a previous version of you.
We may just talk through the intricacies of a diagnosis, or why certain decisions were made or pathways were recommended to you at the time. It can feel important to understand more about your experience before so your body can feel safe to really feel the emotion of it all.
We may even do a re-birth (or re-experience of an event) in a way that feels healing for you.
All this to say, that every debrief looks different, because how we turn up is different every time.
No rules. No agendas. No judgement.
You are safe to turn up, just as you are and just as you need to.
